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I’ve just found out a whole pack of lies about my boyfriend. What to do?
In short, I've found out that my boyfriend has lied about having a bachelor's and a master's degree, lied about holidays to Amsterdam (he had told me was visiting a sick relative), and found out he's in touch with an ex-gf whom he told me he couldn't stand and he swore on his families' lives that he had not had any contact with for months....
Also, by accident I saw one of his bank statements and there was a hotel transaction on there which he says was for a family friend whilst they were staying in the area, as apparently my bf's family couldn't put them up. (I swear I wasn't snooping - the statement fell out on the bed.)
I don't really know whether to believe him about the statement and whether to forgive him for the lies about the degrees, holidays etc.The thing is he invented stories about lectures&his graduation etc which I find really hard to get my head around.
Should I forgive?
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September 16th, 2010 - 13:40
First of all…right now you have the right to snoop. It is your feelings you should be thinking about. He has lied about so much, its going to be hard to create a trusting relationship.
September 17th, 2010 - 08:26
No. I wouldn’t forgive him. If he is lying to you now, what is to say he wont’ lie to you in the future? I would say move on from him but that is easier said than done. Good luck I hope you make the right decision.
September 20th, 2010 - 14:51
you need to pick yourself up and move on as fast as you can. its not good with cornic lyer. its very hard to then tell what is truth and lies and hes not good material for marriage and you sure dont’ want that type of hassel.
September 21st, 2010 - 04:18
nope sounds like a compulsive liar to me…and trust me ive been there seriously honey MOVE ON or youll only get wrapped up in his lies and its gonna end up ruining your credit and relationships around you……GET OUT!!!!!!!!!
September 21st, 2010 - 06:47
That’s a little too much, in my opinion. Personally, I would either have a serious talk with him, asking him to be honest or just dump him off the bat.
First of all, if he did have a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree, he would be very proud of them and probably hang them on the wall . Second of all, nobody goes to Amsterdam to “visit a sick relative.” You know what that place is famous for, right? Lastly, I don’t even want to draw conclusions about the hotel room.
Make the decision on your own, but if he’s able to lie about things like that, what else do you think he will lie about? He’s obviously not very serious.
September 23rd, 2010 - 08:23
This guy is a pathological liar. That’s a person who lies about things they don’t even need to lie about. You will never be able to trust him. He probably doesn’t trust himself. As for the hotel receipt, you can best believe that was a lie. If he didn’t tell you about it was more than likely a tryst with some woman that he’s seeing behind your back. This is the beginning of the end for the two of you. I say that because when you really think about this you will realize that you are way, WAY, too good for this liar. He knows this too, that’s why he built himself up to be much more than he really is. You can do better and you will, but first you need to get rid of the loser. You wont be able to do better as long as he’s there leeching off of your positive energy. He’s got to go. Get rid of this zero, so you can find your true hero. Trust.
September 25th, 2010 - 00:39
i would have to agree with everyone else,… NO, he will say he will change, but i guarantee he wont